I am presently working on a project aimed at helping fathers to handle the PAS situation and to bond better with their children (if thats needed) this includes counselling and education through literature. Understanding perceptions of PAS and focusing on the important stuff. I understand how complicted, formidable, emotional and frustrating this subject is...all ideas will be gratefully received
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The recent Brisbane case of the father that took *HIS* three children from school to his home has been handled dreadfully by the media, with cries of "safety for the children", this is the father of these children, not a kidnapper, why should he be excluded and vilified in this way, it was sickening the way the judge sent the media on a witch hunt to find him
As I state above - My son is back in my arms, ringing me, telling me he loves me. Its been the worst 6 months of my life. The person I married and once loved, lived with and had children with, to have so little value, with little understanding, or empathy for me and my relationship with my son, is shocking. My life will never be the same again, I am a different person now, this will never happen again because if she tries to alienate us again, my reaction will be different. My heart and hand goes out to all the men that are being denied access to their children because of a bitter and difficult divorce or for whatever reason this is happening to you. Make sure you are in a 'safe psychological place' first, then deal with it. if you need help please ring me at anytime, I've been to hell and back and its a journey I didn't navigate well. Now I thank her for the outcome because I am better for it and she, I guess, isn't.
My heart felt thanks to everyone who has supported me, listened to me whine on, wrote affidavits, character references, rang me up with advice, debbie who probably saved me from a possible meltdown, Sugar (a wise 90 year old lady, whom I love dearly), Helen, Maree, Alan, Joanna, Matt, Sally, Fiz, Jamie, Simon, Rob,Geoff, Dan, the fathers 4 equality group and dads in distress,
and everyone else who helped me keep my self together while all the while I was asking why! why! why!
why? - because she can and the law allows it to happen...Something has to change
I am now writing a book on this subject
love to all
To my ex-wife - what you think of me is none of my business, I hold no resentment or anger towards you or your parents. You know deep down and in your quietest moments, what you have done and that is you successfully, for 6 months broke the ties that bind me and my son together. I hope it has all been worth it. You refused 5 requests for independant mediation! and you stopped his email account so I could not contact him. Children, however never forget those that have loved them. Time will expose the truth. I now you keep blaming our son and I also hope one day you see through this error.
PLEASE READ MY STORY
AFTER READING THIS I HOPE YOU UNDERSTAND THE FOLLOWING;
"any attempt by a parent to alienate a child
from the other parent, should be
seen as a direct and willful violation
of one of the prime duties of parenting,
the punishment, public outcry, media attention
and legal ramifications, should
without question, be as focused as
any other instance of child abuse"
*PARENTAL ALIENATION IS NOT A GENDER ISSUE*
BOTH SEXES ALIENATE, HOWEVER, THE CUSTODIAL PARENT IS THE USUALLY THE ALIENATING PARENT AND THE NON-CUSTODIAL PARENT THE TARGET PARENTNOT ONE EXPERT HAS PROVED TO ME THIS SYNDROME OR DISORDER CALLED PARENTAL ALIENATION SYNDROME DOES NOT EXIST. BELIEVE ME ONCE IT'S HAPPENED TO YOU THE WAY IT HAS HAPPENED TO ME, YOU KNOW ITS REAL.
The relationship I had with my son was and is beautiful, with great communication and my-ex wife tried to destroy it. It feels like I am in a film and it's happening to someone else, I dream about my son, how his hair smells his smile the way we used to laugh together, the jokes we told each other. Now she says he was 'acting".
1. THERE IS NO HISTORY OF ABUSE OR VIOLENCE
2. I HAVE NEVER SMACKED OR HARMED MY SON IN ANYWAY
3. WE HAD AN AMICABLE DIVORCE
4. SOLICITORS WERE NOT INVOLVED
5. WE HAD A INFORMAL VISITATION AGREEMENT WE WROTE BETWEEN THE THREE OF US
6. SHE STOPPED THE C$A FROM TAKING MONEY FROM ME, I HAVE THEIR LETTER
7. SHE TOLD ME MY SON HAS BEEN ACTING WHEN HE IS WITH ME (HOW CRUEL IS THIS)
8. THE SIGNS WERE THERE THAT I WAS BEING PUSHED OUT AND DEVALUED BY HER AND HER PARENTS BUT I NEVER SAW THEM, UNTIL IT WAS TOO LATE, IT'S A LONG LONG PROCESS
I CAN'T TELEPHONE HIM, RING HIM, SEE HIM, OR WRITE TO HIM, SHE HAS CANCELLED HIS EMAIL ADDRESS. IF I DO SHE CLAIMS HARASSMENT AND ABUSE. SHE WON'T GIVE IN, SHE BELIEVES SHE OWNS HIM AND ALWAYS WILL, IN THE SAME MANNER HER PARENTS (WHO CAME FROM ENGLAND TO LIVE WITH US FOR 7 MONTHS OF THE YEAR AND NOW LIVE WITH MY-EX AND MY SON PERMANENTLY) OWN HER. SHE IS NOW MAKING SEVERAL FALSE ALLEGATIONS, MY FEAR IS SHE COULD MAKE A FALSE ALLEGATION TOO MANY AND DAMAGE MY ATTEMPT TO SEE MY SON. WHY IS SHE DOING THIS? BECAUSE SHE CAN, BECAUSE SHE IS THE MOTHER WITH CONTROL OVER HIM. IT'S ABUSE OF THE CHILD AND FATHER. MOTHERS DO ABUSE CHILDREN IN MANY DIFFERENT FORMS, I AM SUFFERING FROM THE EFFECTS OF PARENTAL ALIENATION, IE LOSS AND GRIEF AND MOURNING FOR THE LOSS OF MY SON, WHO I HAVE NOT SEEN FOR 5 MONTHS NOW.
SHE IS DOING THIS BECAUSE IT WORKS FOR HER AND NO ONE FINDS OUT. IT'S OUTRAGEOUS THAT THIS CAN HAPPEN AND CHILDREN CAN BE ABUSED IN THIS WAY.
1. MY ATTEMPTS AT CONTACTING HER ARE SEEN AS HARASSMENT.
THROUGH THIS FALSE ALLEGATION SHE USES SOLICITORS LETTERS TO ALIENATE ME FROM BEING ABLE TO CONTACT HER TO ORGANISE TO SEE MY SON.
2. SHE CLAIMS THAT MY ATTEMPTS AT CONTACTING HIM CAUSES HIM DISTRESS. THIS FALSE ALLEGATION STOPS ME TALKING TO HIM! SO I BECOME ALIENATED FROM MY SON.
MANY MEN BECOME DEPRESSED, SUICIDE IS OFTEN AN OPTION. NOT ME THOUGH, I WILL FIGHT AND CONTINUE TO ATTEMPT TO SEE MY SON AS LONG AS I AM ALIVE
PLEASE CONTACT ME OR AND LEAVE ANY COMMENT YOU WANT ON THIS SITE AND LINK MY BLOG TO ANYWHERE YOU WANT - GET INVOLVED AND SUPPORT BRINGING AWARENESS OF PARENTAL ALIENATION TO THE WORLD. OFFER ME ADVICE, IT'S WELCOME.
- Write to your MP
- The Family Law Courts
- School Counsellors (for whatever use they are)
- your solicitor
IT IS A SICK SOCIETY AND A CORRUPT COURT SYSTEM THAT ALLOWS THIS TO HAPPEN. I BELIEVE THE COURTS TURN A BLIND EYE TO THIS FORM OF CHILD ABUSE. STATISTICS ARE NOW SHOWING MOTHERS ABUSE CHILDREN MUCH MORE THAN FIRST CONSIDERED. OVER 90 RECENT STUDIES IN MANY COUNTRIES HAVE SHOWN THIS TO BE TRUE. IF YOU WOULD LIKE TO READ THESE REPORTS THEN PLEASE CONTACT ME AT MY PRIVATE EMAIL ADDRESS:
*Support the presumption of equal parenting, it works*
Psychologists say that 75% of Narcissists are men and 25% women. They also say that 1% of people are Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD) I have a very strong gut feeling that it is much higher than this.
Please go to the links at the top and read. A parent that is alienating a child and is showing 6 of the symptoms of NPD you are dealing with someone who is mentally ill and it is really crazy making for you to try to work out why they are doing what they do.
The children in the centre of this are unlikely to become Narcissists, just because the parent is, they can however, grow up to choose a Narcissist for a partner......acting out what they learned to deal with as a child. Malignant Self Love by Sam Viknan is a very worthy read.